The main function of healthy mainstream churches are focused on charity and joyful worship together. The Christians I surround myself with are not legalistic or controling. Our happiness has nothing at all to do with the church exept in that it offers us an unconditionaly loving extended family. The pastor does not ask for us to obey him, or look to him, but to God. We have no set of doctrines but for the Nicene Creed.
The one main problem I think we have as a forum family is not everyone has experienced this type of healthy church to be able to judge it. My relationship with Jesus has nothing to do with where I go to church. I look forward to Sundays because I love the worship. I enjoy my pastor.
I adore my church family who do not come with phony facades and fake smiles. If they are hurting they say so and we help. We don't judge them or take them to the back room. I love them deeply, their children, their families, and when they hurt, we all hurt. We do hide from each other.
My particular non denominational church provides many charities to surrounding communities. Food, clothing, shelters, orphanages, drug rehab homes, financial aid, you name it. If there is a need, we fill it. Because that is what we who follow Jesus believe it means to be a church. Love~Kate